4: Misunderstood | 21 Days of Prayer & Fasting 2026

Day 4: Misunderstood

When I humbled my soul with fasting, they insulted me for doing so.
Psalm 69:10

I don’t like seeming foolish or naive. I’m a first-born, a high achiever, and an educated man. So the idea of intentionally humbling myself is something that doesn’t come naturally to me.

But then I had kids. And whether you like it or not, kids will humble you daily.

Sometimes, I’m humbled by finding a stain on my shirt at the end of a day that I didn’t realize was there (a gift from the grubby hands of a child). Other times, I choose to lower myself and humble myself because it allows me to access something better: connection with my kids.

And when the bright little eyes of your child beckon you to join them on the floor to play, the choice is easy. I’ll intentionally lay down my preferences for being a sloth on the couch, and lower myself to their domain on the floor, all so that I can enter their world and learn their heart and imagination better.

Fasting can do that in how we connect with God’s heart. The psalmist in Psalm 69 speaks of how, in their act of humbling themselves through fasting, others insulted them. This reminds us that fasting isn’t about gaining approval from others but about humbling ourselves before God. It’s a personal sacrifice and act of devotion, not to be seen or praised by others, but to draw nearer to the heart of God.
When we fast, we choose to step into discomfort, whether through hunger, giving up habits, or disconnecting from distractions. That discomfort can feel challenging, especially when others don’t understand the reason behind our choices.

But instead of letting it discourage us, we can allow it to deepen our dependence on God. The hunger, the yearning, the cravings… all serve as a constant reminder of our need for Him.

As you continue in this fast, remember that the struggle is not in vain. It’s not about enduring hardship for hardship’s sake, but about humbling yourself before God and drawing closer to Him. Every time you feel the pull of what you’ve given up, let it remind you of how deeply you need God’s presence, provision, and guidance in your life.

Reflection Questions:

Idea for Action:

When you feel hunger or longing today, use it as an opportunity to pray and reflect on your dependence on God. Let your fasting become a catalyst for deeper connection with Him.

Prayer

Jesus, in moments when fasting feels hard, let it remind me of my need for You. Keep me grounded in Your love. Amen.